Reading Guide
Here are all the books I have on my shelf and recommend to you to expand your understanding of sex and relationships! Use this as a functional bibliography for my work. And note that all titles are linked to Bookshop.org which is a certified B-corp committed to helping local bookstores stay afloat against Amazon’s market domination. Fucking rad. Order from them if you can!
ENM, Polyam & Relationship Books
Polyamorous Advice You Won't Get From Your Monogamous Friends by Sam Cat
The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Polysecure by Jessica Fern
Building Open Relationships by Dr. Liz Powell
The Polyamory Breakup Book by Kathy Labriola
Love's Not Color Blind by Kevin Patterson
More Than Two by Franklin Veaux
Many Love by Sophie Lucido Johnson
The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola
Dealing with Difficult Metamours by Page Turner
All about Love by belle hooks
Opening Up by Tristan Taormino
How to Date Men When You Hate Men by Blythe Roberson
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
The State of Affairs by Esther Perel
It's Called Polyamory by Tamara Pincus
The Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory by Dedeker Winston
Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory: Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up by Cunning Minx
Sex, Kink & Erotica Books
Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown
Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon
Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
The Come as You Are Workbook by Emily Nagoski
Ultimate Guide to Kink by Tristan Taormino
Tongue Tied by Stella Harris
Getting It by Allison Moon
Carnal Knowledge by Zoe Ligon
Every Body by Julia Rothman
Drawn to Sex Vol. 1 by Erika Moen & Matthew Nolan
Curvy Girl Sex by Elle Chase
Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability by Cory Silverberg
Sexuality, Disability, and Aging by Jane Gallop
Queer Sex by Juno Roche
Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino
A Quick & Easy Guide to Sex & Disability by A. Andrews
The Lesbian Sex Haiku Book (with Cats!) by Anna Pulley
Sometimes She Lets Me by Tristan Taormino
50 Shades of Kink by Tristan Taormino
The Best of Best Lesbian Erotica by Tristan Taormino
When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes by Stella Harris
Leatherfolk by Mark Thompson
Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane
The Ashley Book of Knots by Clifford Warren Ashley
As Kinky as You Wanna Be by Shanna Germain
Cunt by Inga Muscio
Faking It by Lux Alptraum
Vagina Bible by Jen Gunter
Vagina by Naomi Wolf
Small Favors by Colleen Coover
Let's Talk About It by Erika Moen
Womanhood: The Bare Reality by Laura Dodsworth
The Best Lesbian Erotica Of The Year by Sinclair Sexsmith
Take Me There by Tristan Taormino
Stripped Down by Tristan Taormino
Queer Identity Books
Queering Anarchism by C.B. Daring
A Comprehensive Guide to Intersex by Jay Kyle Petersen
Claiming the B in LGBT by Juliet Kemp
Ace by Angela Chen
The Trans Partner Handbook by Jo. Green
Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon
The New Queer Conscience by Adam Eli
Sissy by Jacob Tobia
Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe
Queer: A Graphic History by Meg-John Barker
A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni
A Quick & Easy Guide to Queer & Trans Identities by Mady G
You And Your Gender Identity by Dara Hoffman Fox
Gender Outlaws by Kate Bornstein
Trans Power by Juno Roche
Feminism, Anarchy & Social Justice Books
Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay
Not That Bad by Roxane Gay
We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Cunt by Inga Muscio
Entitled by Kate Manne
Down Girl by Kate Manne
What We Talk about When We Talk about Rape by Sohaila Abdulali
Drawing Power by Diane Noomin
Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit
Mediocre by Ijeoma Oluo
Queering Anarchism by C.B. Daring
The Communism Of Love by Richard Gilman-Opalsky
Emergent Strategy by Adrienne Maree Brown
We Will Not Cancel Us by Adrienne Maree Brown
I Hope We Choose Love by Kai Cheng Thom
Beyond Survival by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
The Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor
Damaged Like Me by Kimberly Dark
The Seven necessary Sins For Women And Girls by Mona Eltahawy
Fat And Queer by TJ Ferentini
Becoming Dangerous by Katie West
Graphic Novels & Poetry Books
Drawn to Sex Vol. 1 by Erika Moen & Matthew Nolan
The Lesbian Sex Haiku Book (with Cats!) by Anna Pulley
Drawing Power by Diane Noomin
On A Sunbeam by Tillie Walden
Alone in Space by Tillie Walden
The Essential Dykes to Watch Out for by Alison Bechdel
Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe
Small Favors by Colleen Coover
Fun Home by Alison Bechdel
Are You My Mother? by Alison Bechdel
My Solo Exchange Diary by Nagata Kabi
My Lesbian Experience With Loneliness by Nagata Kabi
Queer: A Graphic History by Meg-John Barker
A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns by Archie Bongiovanni
A Quick & Easy Guide to Consent by Isabella Rotman
A Quick & Easy Guide to Queer & Trans Identities by Mady G
Lord of the Butterflies by Andrea Gibson
Aphrodite Made Me Do It by Trista Mateer
Pillow Thoughts by Courtney Peppernell
Sor Juana's Love Poems
Bluets by Maggie Nelson
Drawn To Sex Our Bodies & Health by Erika Moen