Expectations Are Requests

Sorry, my lovely control freaks, I've got bad news: you actually can't tell your partners what to do. Hard, I know, but necessary to learn. Again, you might be able to get away with bossing your pal around when you're in a monogamous relationship, but when there's more people involved, that's not gonna work. And I get it, I LOVE getting my way. Like many type-A folks, I frequently struggle to chill and not tell people what to do, especially when they're moving to Alaska and it's clearly a bad idea according to me. But learning that you can only make requests, and that your pals are free to do whatever they want, even if you disagree, is a major step towards having a more fulfilling relationship. And before you panic, no, this doesn't mean they get to treat you badly, you can always set boundaries for yourself if you don't like something. Lastly, if you're honestly worried that your pals will ruin your relationship if you don't tell them what to do, maybe examine what's up with that dynamic 🙃🪨