Finding Boundaries

I don’t set out to deliberately violate my pals boundaries. When my love says “here’s my boundary” I wouldn’t go and directly behave in a way that disrespected her. However, it’s not uncommon that we make mistakes and accidentally encounter a boundary that wasn’t explicitly defined previously, unearth a hidden trigger, or realize we need a boundary in the moment. These things happen, I do them accidentally, my pals do them accidentally. I try to extend compassion the way I would like to receive for these violations because they really are mistakes that result in me redefining my expectations of my pals to better meet their needs in the future. 💕🦌