How Do Boundaries Work?

 In a previous relationship I avoided my polycule, I preferred not dealing with my ex-meta. They were really hard to be around and frankly I didn't have the patience or desire to put in the required work to sustain a relationship. If I'm being honest I simply found this meta to be deeply annoying. But it's really hard to sustain polyamory with this attitude. That's why I also believe that a lot of the longevity of a polycule depends on having members who are cohesive. In my current polycule I WANT to put effort into those relationships. They are meaningful and generative. Having traditions for all of us helps make everything feel more abundant and nurturing 💕🦌