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Learn about ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and consensually alternative structures. Dive into boundary setting, jealousy management, and effective communication. Browse all.
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Renovating Our Home (and Conflict Style)
Honey Bunch and I fix up our house… and our communication style. We didn’t know that tearing our house apart would test our last nerve, so we had to learn to work better together.
Magic Phrases For Polyamory
While we can’t have magic fixes to our polyamorous problems, we CAN use magic phrases to help regulate our emotions and align our actions with our values
“Interested But Not Invested” - Keeping Things Casual
Lot’s of people want casual relationships but don’t know how to maintain those connections without letting their expectations run wild!
Redefining Family Child-Free
What does it look like to have a satisfying and fulfilling life while choosing to be deliberately child-free? What alternatives are there to having a nuclear family?
How Cancel Culture Shows Up In Polyamory
Why are polyamorous people canceling each other online over disagreements, miscommunication, and other issues that should be handled inter-personally?
Antidotes For Toxic Monogamy
Let’s examine common ways toxic monogamy can appear in polyamory and deconstruct those beliefs to build stronger ethical non-monogamous practices
Recipe for Self-Care & Support Cake
Practicing self-care in polyamory and ethical non-monogamy is difficult. I break down an easy method to understand self-care using a cake analogy.
Sustaining Energy In Polyamory
It’s no secret that polyamory takes a lot of time, resources, and energy. But how do you maintain your well-being when multiple people desire to have relationships with you?
Working With ENM Clients
What’s the difference between therapy and peer support? How can monogamous therapists do a better job at providing adequate care to their polyamorous clients?
Defending Canceled Friends
My friends are problematic… because they have large online audiences and refuse to play the losing game of conforming to every random stranger’s expectation. Bummer.
My Petamour From Hell
My girlfriend’s cat is an absolute nightmare. I want to like my metamour (the cat one) but it’s impossible because she has pure toxic Gemini energy
Managing Jealousy in Ethical Non-Monogamy
A quick overview at the BITCH framework for managing jealousy in polyamory and ethical non-monogamy
Boundaries, Agreements, Expectations & Support
Dissecting the BAES framework to help polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous folks set boundaries, agreements, expectations, and ask for support.
Opening Your Relationship 101
What steps do you need to take when you or your pal wants to open your previously monogamous relationship? Take a breath, I’ll guide you through!
Consensually Alternative Relationship Structures
What are the different types of polyamory, ethically non-monogamy, and deliberate forms of monogamy? We go over all the available options!
Bad Practices In Polyamory
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Unicorn hunters, one pen!s policies, veto power, couple’s privilege and more. I’m annoyed, let’s talk about it.
Cancelling Cancelling
What’s the deal with all the Clementine Morrigan drama? Did I make it worse? Here’s why I’m done supporting cancel culture
Directing Change In Polyamory
How do you deal with the constant change in polyamory? Is it possible to feel like your relationships are stable when everyone is dating and breaking up all the time?
The Secret Link Between Satisfaction & Jealousy
Let’s explore how identifying your satisfaction point allows you to be more content in your relationship and find happiness with your pals.
Polyamory Lessons from Peer-Support
Practicing polyamory is a never-ending lesson. I share some of the valuable insights I have gained from talking to folks who practice consensually alternative relationship structures.