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Learn about ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and consensually alternative structures. Dive into boundary setting, jealousy management, and effective communication. Browse all.
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Renovating Our Home (and Conflict Style)
Honey Bunch and I fix up our house… and our communication style. We didn’t know that tearing our house apart would test our last nerve, so we had to learn to work better together.
Magic Phrases For Polyamory
While we can’t have magic fixes to our polyamorous problems, we CAN use magic phrases to help regulate our emotions and align our actions with our values
“Interested But Not Invested” - Keeping Things Casual
Lot’s of people want casual relationships but don’t know how to maintain those connections without letting their expectations run wild!
Redefining Family Child-Free
What does it look like to have a satisfying and fulfilling life while choosing to be deliberately child-free? What alternatives are there to having a nuclear family?
How Cancel Culture Shows Up In Polyamory
Why are polyamorous people canceling each other online over disagreements, miscommunication, and other issues that should be handled inter-personally?
Antidotes For Toxic Monogamy
Let’s examine common ways toxic monogamy can appear in polyamory and deconstruct those beliefs to build stronger ethical non-monogamous practices
Beyond “Top & Bottom”
Queers love to label themselves as tops or bottoms! But are those categories too narrow and limiting our sexual expressions?
Sustaining Energy In Polyamory
It’s no secret that polyamory takes a lot of time, resources, and energy. But how do you maintain your well-being when multiple people desire to have relationships with you?
No Shame November
Sex is not just sex. Sex can be tremendously beneficial as a way to experience pleasure, form connections, and deepen bonds. But sex is also about power, assimilation, and control.
Working With ENM Clients
What’s the difference between therapy and peer support? How can monogamous therapists do a better job at providing adequate care to their polyamorous clients?
Defending Canceled Friends
My friends are problematic… because they have large online audiences and refuse to play the losing game of conforming to every random stranger’s expectation. Bummer.
My Petamour From Hell
My girlfriend’s cat is an absolute nightmare. I want to like my metamour (the cat one) but it’s impossible because she has pure toxic Gemini energy
Ultimate Guide To Proper Pronoun Use
They/Them, Ze/Zir, Fae? What’s going on with all these pronouns and how do you use them? Don’t worry, we’ve got the rundown for you <3
Trigger Plans For Better Sex
How can you create a plan with your pals to address difficult or triggering sexual situations? Learn a few steps to help support folks who are survivors of sexual violence
Different Types of Consent
What’s the difference between Explicit Verbal Consent, Non-Verbal Consent, Bodily Autonomy, and Consensual Non-Consent. How can you use these principles with your pals?
Managing Jealousy in Ethical Non-Monogamy
A quick overview at the BITCH framework for managing jealousy in polyamory and ethical non-monogamy
Boundaries, Agreements, Expectations & Support
Dissecting the BAES framework to help polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous folks set boundaries, agreements, expectations, and ask for support.
Opening Your Relationship 101
What steps do you need to take when you or your pal wants to open your previously monogamous relationship? Take a breath, I’ll guide you through!
Consensually Alternative Relationship Structures
What are the different types of polyamory, ethically non-monogamy, and deliberate forms of monogamy? We go over all the available options!
Bad Practices In Polyamory
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Unicorn hunters, one pen!s policies, veto power, couple’s privilege and more. I’m annoyed, let’s talk about it.